What if I don’t want to lead?


Leadership roles are created, offered up and some have always been there – sneakily waiting for us. coque samsung s8 coque Samsung Galaxy S8 What happens if you are asked to lead or need to lead but just don’t want to? Some might explain the experience as like being handed a box of matches and a can of petrol at the same time, or being the first to paddle out into shark infested waters. 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Before putting on the FAILleader cap, first consider: · What is your view of the leadership role (if you can, keep this to one sentence)? · What is the view of others about the leadership role? · Who else could lead in that moment? · Reflecting on your responses, do you in fact need to lead? In 2017 my marriage imploded spectacularly just as I was about to commence the fourth intake of the Legacy Leadership Development Programme in Taranaki, New Zealand. coque samsung s9 Coque iphone coque Samsung Galaxy S8 The original plan was for my mentor to lead day one of the programme and I was to facilitate the next 8 days. coque samsung My head space [it felt like the end of the world] meant I was unsure if I could lead any of the days. Coque Huawei P20 pas cher Coque Huawei Soldes Achat coque samsung coque iphone outlet store coque samsung s8 plus The leadership role – my view. 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